Measure... Plan... Live your dream!

What if we got promoted and our salary rose to two hundred thousand from just forty thousand per month.  Within three months we will become debtors (may be, I should say again). In the first month we will rock everybody by setting up parties every weekend. In the second month we will settle all the debts we owe and on third month we will plan and get marketing calls. Then we will buy a luxury home, Audi or BMW. These all can’t be done with just two hundred thousand. So we go for a loan, but we easily get a loan with our last three months payslip. As a result, we will end up paying interest every month and get back to office with the fear of losing the job.

This is how it ends and begins on every rise we get. In reality we do not just plan what we really want. Everybody has a dream to chase but each day end up in going to the office. We have heard a lot like, ‘want to fulfil my responsibilities... food for my family, children’s education, home, debts... Is it all about earning enough money? If yes, then first we must measure the term enough.

Measuring is important. In reality we pay more for luxury than what we really need for chasing our dreams. In the hierarchy of needs - food, clothing and shelter comes first, dream comes after. So we should be clear on what we want good tasty food or luxury food? They are very much different from one another. Good tasty food can be cooked with quality provisions or can be bought from a good hotel. Luxury food means having anything on Hilton, ITC and paying for their brand names. The same applies for dresses, houses and anything we spend on daily. We must be clear about the basic only then we can achieve one after another. When we are not clear on what we need then we do not achieve love or belonging and easily go for divorce and things get worse.

So firstly, we need to measure what we mean by ‘enough’.  Then secondly, the most important thing is savings, just saving 10%, 20% or even 30% of every month salary. That is good, but the question to be answered is for what we are saving? In some cases we earn to save, for the future, which is very much accepted as uncertain.

Here too we must plan, out of 10% cut it like 2% for emergency, 5% for children education and 3% to do things we love most. Spend it before we exhaust or expire on things we love most and dream to experience. For this, we will never need a raise of some 425%.

Complete Trade!

I have never seen a teacher they are wholesalers!

I never educated but got a material to sell!

I never learned how to lead my life but how to market myself!

I’m not in any place to enrich my knowledge – But

I’m in a market

I refined the articles there in the text books and showcasing my ability

It’s an auction happening over my buried dreams!

E very school is a wholesale market!

Every child is a retailer!

Every company is customer!

Everywhere it’s all just a trade!

Best Judge!

In a social network at the time when most of the people are talking about Sachin Tendulkar retirement I came across a note comparing him with Imran Khan, as Sachin Tendulkar built own house for millions and billions where Imran built free cancer institution. After reading this note something stroked me, we all are earning enough have we ever compared ourselves with Mr.Kalayanasundaram, a librarian who donated his 30 years salary and even his pension amount to needy.

As most of us would have no idea about who is Mr.Kalayanasundaram.. Please click here..

Have we ever tried to donate something from our every month salary? We would have 150 CC or 180 CC bikes which may cost 80K or 90K. Why is that we haven’t gone for XL super which cost only less than 20 thousand. So the rest we could have donated. So when we compare ourselves with Kalayanasundaram we should not even celebrate festivals and even our birthdays.

Here this man Sachin Tendulkar he worked for his passion and he achieved something that may take century to reach for anyone. So his retirement is celebrated by most of the cricket lovers. Then they are recognizing a player and this is not an event for social service and in that event Imran Khan may get better applause then Sachin and moreover we don’t know what Sachin Tendulkar contributed to needy.

We easily say they are wrong and these are right but we never judge ourselves and that’s the time we go completely wrong.  Every night we will not sleep as soon as we fall on bed (to sleep). It would be better if we recall the whole day from morning till the time we fell on bed what we have done and what went rightly and what really went wrong, what is our contribution to those beautiful right moments and the wrong moments instead of thinking anything.

Most importantly we should forgive ourselves for the mistakes we have did and very most important is make sure that we should never repeat the same mistake.

Rainy Independence Day

Morning ... August 15, 2013... Raining...

This rainy Independence Day pushed me to grow younger. I remember my school days, may be patriotism, I always want to go school on Independence Day but not my mom. We have parade on morning by 8am followed by that there will be speech competition then dance, price distribution and last sweet distribution. Hardly 4 hours.

I believe that should be on ninth standard, mean 15^th August 2000, and was raining heavily. My brother told like he’s not going to attend the school. My mom was looking at me. I smiled and told like I want to go. She shouted, ‘yes, he’s the chief guest. Without him nothing will happen in school. See, nobody goes only he’s going to hoist the flag. Go, you’ll find a board in front of your school gate saying no function today due to rain. Just for one to two hours you want to spoil that white shirt and shoe’.

By hearing all those words I just prepared myself to go school. By the time she stopped shouting or maybe just by seeing me in white shirt.

I went, no board was there and all my friends were there in parade line. I joined in that again a wonderful day.

But last weekend I asked my friend ‘you've holiday next week?’ he surprised me by asking ‘for what?’

I told this incident to my assistant manager, he gave me a shock by saying when his daughter told she has holiday on next week his reply was like is it for republic day.

I'm not saying this new BPO, MNC industries are changing us. We have some event or at least an email wishing Happy Independence Day. But it’s us forgetting our own days just by running behind money. We are marketing our knowledge on where we get good price, may be by working on BPO or MNC or working in abroad. So it’s our responsibility to keep our things safe to present that to our own next generation, nothing to blame our customers. Learn work life balance and know to differentiate work from life. Work is to earn n life is not only to live, it’s your responsible to design it.

What’s there inside?

These days whenever I feel like eating chocolate or ice creams I go for it, no matter that’s lunch time or dinner, whatever. Even in my refrigerator at least for 4 days a week there will be chocolates, coke or Miranda, biscuits and on freezer ice creams, kulfis.

I’m not stuffing those to give to some neighbour kids or to celebrate some day with friends. As like everyday grocery I purchase those and I eat. I might forget to purchase the weekly grocery items but not those stuffs.

Why is that I'm more particular about those chocos and ice creams?

All I remember is on my school days every morning while waiting for our school bus most of my friends come with their dad or mom. All they get is candy, before the school bus reach us their parents run away to get them. I always move far away from them on that time, I never let them to ask me ‘can I get one for you too?’

In school, we have a store like stationary and as well the chocolates. In every break friends go there to buy chocolates, everybody there have their own turn to treat everyone. I never move with those people. Same happens in canteen, too many items, vada, bread bajji, samosa, onion samosa. I never go if I knew that they are planning to go canteen or store to eat. I say some reason and I’ll stay back in class or go to ground alone.

They do offer to those who are not afford to buy, I never show them that me too the one. I gently avoid that situation by going away, alone.

Even in college apart from travelling expense cost I get Rs.50 as pocket money, monthly. I used to save it to go for movie.

Only once I demanded to get me a Winner brand geometry box that should be on 6^th or 7^th standard. That costs Rs.25, after I got that I really felt bad. I thought I should have used the old one. Even now I don’t know what was my father’s earning. But I know whatever he brings is not enough. I have never seen my mom fighting with my dad for not earning sufficient. They were in love, they talk they laugh every day.

I never want to disturb him by asking such things. I know how hard for him to bring my school fees and I’m not loyal to that. I fail in all the exams except the final annual, no idea how was that happened. So I never want to ask those things. I feel that’s not mandatory so I avoid asking.

But by seeing my friends everyday with that I suffered deep inside, no one know that. I hid that in loud laugh.

I guess that deep sufferings are now stuffed inside my refrigerator.

Feel the feel to be together!

This morning, from terrace I was watching my neighbor playing with stray dogs. Two to three dogs are happily running around him and jumping and tying his legs. He was feeding them the biscuits.

After few minutes I realized that his actual intention is not feeding those dogs. His own dog gone out of his house and he was trying to get it back home. When he tried to call his dog others are coming towards him and getting those biscuits and jumping up on him but his own dog was not even thinking about coming near to him.

Most of the human relations are this way. When we more care about someone, at some point we may feel like they are showing no care as we do. Then we started hating them. We feel like calling them as selfish, they backstabbed us.

The fact is, we like them, to show that we care them and we try to keep a hold on them. In return we started expecting same care and hold from them. Without any request we offered them the care and no sense in expecting the same from them.

The problem is not with the dogs, it’s with us. That dog gets biscuits and enough of food on time, everyday but it loves to be free like those stray dogs. But those dogs eat hardly, sleep under sunny. If that fellow tied up one of that stray dog in his house instead of his own one, after few months even that dog will do the same to him. Though he cares more n feed everything, he is a master, human, not a dog. A dog needs other dog, in this matter.

In any relation you can be possessive but never try to hold them strongly, that will never hurt them. It’ll hurt you more.

Try to understand there is a world after you and me. Everybody loves to go there with everyone. Respect their feelings, thoughts, let them be free.

Anyone can be together with anyone, if we follow compassion. Try understanding that how we want them to be only with us and only for us, they might have some other feel for something. If we can’t feel the feel of other, our expectations with them are bosh.

Do we ever want our own children to play only with us, talk and smile only with us?

If anybody feels bad that I compared human relation with dogs, I’m not gonna ask sorry for that, but this is how I see all n everything. Everyone as soul, not like any government, if a dog get hurt on road it’s not even consider as incident. This is usual for them, but when comes to man, they see it as accident, murder n ends as incident after few years.

Why did I cry?

March 22, 2002 – I would have cried for at least six to seven hours. The reason was my dad passed away. I was fifteen and all I knew that time was everyone have to die …. may be sooner or later. Then what made my eyes shed that much of tears?

I know the reason was not just because he was dead.

Sometime in 2009, I cried all night and I even felt my dad was with me to console me. But this time my eyes let that same tears for a girl, we were in love and for some reason she wants to break our relationship. That girl was still alive and I know any time I can meet her, talk to her and she can get back to me. Still I was crying like the world was going to end after that night.

The reason I realize in was that she is not going to be with me as we were before. That was the almost the same way as how I felt on 2002, March. I cried not because he was dead but because my daddy will not be there for me… not with me ANYMORE….

Whenever I tend to cry or suffer or be sad, people say this is your life, live it. If I am happy and cheerful, they say I’m enjoying my life. Be it whether I am sad or cheerful, I am living my life and not doing anything else. In our plates, salty, bitter and sour foods are served along with sweets. If only sweet makes us feel good, why do we have too many taste buds in our tongue?

I do everything knowingly and at times even without caring who are all around and what they will think. I never regret, instead question myself “why”?

Realizing things always brings wisdom and not just simply knowing everything.

Mistake teaches lesson and lessons in turn gives us knowledge and this leads one to be wealthy, but wherein wealth might end up only just as a pressure if the realization doesn’t take place at any stage in this cycle, like why I did the mistakes? Or why does knowledge lead me to wealth? Or at least why I am wealthy?

Best Thing of All to a Girl

In the recent times, my close friend gave me a CD to check as it cannot be read in his laptop. The disk content is about the grand function that was carried out for his cousin who has just entered into the puberty phase and turned mature. Unfortunately my writer not only read and but played it too. For the First six minutes, the girl seems to be dressed up in different attires like modern, ethnic and so on. The video seems to play for another one hour.

As soon as the first six minutes got over, a question rose in my mind ‘what kind of act was that, that too by her parents?’

I see that as a photo shoot of a model or an actress. There is nothing wrong with that. Their profession is so. But the question is, “Will they allow the same girl, if she likes to do such a photo-shoot after five or six years?”  They do distribute the CDs to their relatives and others proudly now. 

One good reason that seems to fit is that at her marriageable age, others may get a doubt whether the girl is matured or not. My question is” Why the hell these people are not worried/concerned about the boys?”

In olden days, these kind of functions was to invite boy's family by saying that the  girl is ready for marriage as in those days they do marriages at an early age of ten or thirteen. The girl will be isolated from the family and she will be given a separate place to live for the next 14 days. During these days, she will be having separate utensils, bedspreads, etc. Elders will teach her how to stay hygienic. Nobody in the family will use those utensils utilized by the girl. After 14 days, a grand function will be arranged and all the relatives and friends will be invited to perform customary practices. Then the girl will be invited back into the family. This is most likely to remind the child that she is no more a child for some medical and psychological reasons.

In the recent days, we have customized this function as per our convenience and moreover recent day girls know about this well before and it’d be better if parents discuss with them instead of making and distributing CDs.

Revolution, so & so

When leadership messed up with dictatorship, can expect a BOOM. Wherever I hear a term revolution a image that can see from my mind is red roads, guns firing and people with guns (not military). One old man has changed the trend, he is Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi. He became the voice of 350 million. All the millions reacted for his action. A great strategic leader wasted in the name of non-violence. Though he is not a founder of it, he innovated the way of using it against anything. Apart from satyagraha he knew the strategy building.

A 52 years old man took leadership of the Indian National Congress after Gopal Krishnan Gokhale. As it founded by Indian and British members of the Theosophical society (Adyar, Chennai- so the origin of INC is TN) there is no talk about Indian independence by INC until 1930. After 10 years INC declared the Indian independence. Later his move against British was tremulous. He took control of millions of people, made them to come out of their routine and taught to fight without any weapon against weapons. Without any IT connection he connects each and everyone by travelling throughout India.

ISRO is under a direct control of PM, where Manmohan singh has no idea about the scam of two hundred thousand crore. Then about 2G – no paper can go without crossing PM’s table for his signature however again he has no idea about what happened and where it gone wrong.

Then one man cannot be ignored, Netaji. Before going into him a word by Michael Edwardes, the distinguished British historian,

"Only one outstanding personality of India took a different and violent path, and in a sense India owes more to him than to any other man"

He is the man who travels almost half of the world to form an army for liberty. His famous motto is ‘Give me blood and I will give you freedom’.

He was also with INC and elected as leader twice consecutively. However he resigned the post due to the conflict with M.K. Gandhi. Then formed the new party called All India Forward Bloc and continued to call for full and immediate freedom. He merely waited for to take an advantage of British weakness. In that concern he met Soviet Union, Nazi Germany, and Imperial Japan. After all he formed INA in Japan with the Indian prisoners of war, plantation workers from British Malaya, Singapore and southern Asia

Current president did, Prathibha Patil (INC party) spent 205 corers for travel 22 different nations.

Then the other name of revolution is he himself, Che Guevara, was  was an Argentine-Marxist revolutionary, physician, author, intellectual, guerrilla leader, diplomat and military theorist. At age of 22 he started travelling throughout Latin America, that travel showed him the economic inequality, the result of capitalism, monopolism, neocolonialism and imperialism. Only remedy he sees at the time is WORLD REVOLUTION.

He was born in Argentina however he fought for Cuba, Congo and so on. He lived as a man without any boundaries.

Novartis (Switzerland based Pharmaceuticals Company) has raised a patent issue that particular cancer drug should not be manufacture in India as it owned the whole right. The issue is with the Indian Supreme Court. (cost of the drug manufacture in India Rs. 90 however the drug from Swiss cost Rs.1000). The persons arguing in favor of Novartis are P. Chidambaram (current minister of home affairs), Gopal Subramaniam (Former Solicitor General of India – the second most important law officer of the country after attorney general).

Over night one can not have a sibling. There should be parents still alive and they need some time to be with each other. Moreover love and chemistry should sustain between them. After all should wait for at least ten month.

Then how revolution can expect with a little emotion called anger? Every revolution that world experienced so far are started as panic and roadside talk. There is no proper base or strategy at the beginning however always there is reason called bad leadership.

If a group of 15 is talking about a change, at least 5 can expect to react after talk. At last one can continue the action and can form a group of hundreds and thousands world wide.

Revolution begins this way, at least start talking!!!

“Fear leads you to kill, Anger to REVOLUTION”

Oops Professionalism

Professionalism – polished shoe, formal pant, formal shirt, tucked. Tie, should match with shirt. Then of course the belt again should match with the shoe color. If there is a meeting then suit is mandatory. Clean shave or trimmed. These show one as professional with the appearance (here we are talking about the professionalism in appearance alone).

Do one who works near an oven can wear all these stuffs (of course they are not and not expected) then why the HELL that people living in an oven are expected to be like this. This is the reason blog named as ‘Oops Professionalism’.

It may look odd if every one wears sweater, leather jack (like a detective in 80’s film), monkey cap and tight scarf on neck at work place. Hence people in cool countries like UK and US designed a suit and other things. It’s a ninth wonder why the oven countries are like to follow the same dress code, where already people are boiling daily.

Dressing is purely based on culture. Culture is not the one from heaven or hell, it’s the practice that every human started following according to the place and climatic conditions they live.

Another best thing is table manners, eating all nonsense with spoon and fork. Again people lives in minus degree temperature don’t love to keep their hands in water. To avoid such they are using spoon, knife and fork. Then what is the necessary for those who living in oven? They can maintain their body temperature by having contact with water quite often like washing hands before and after. Indus valley (now it’s India) people are (were) the cleanest people and they take bath every day.

Whatever, do and follow things that are comfortable. That is stupid if we follow and practice because people in developed countries are doing.

One last thing, culture is the identity if it’s lost we can never get back. Though we don’t want to practice our own culture try at least to preserve it, don’t destroy it.

Beginning of the beginning

Today is just another day. Nothing is new, same twenty four hours. However why that all need to take a resolution today?

If it’s good why the hell that needs to wait for this day to come and take a decision and do, do it immediately. Then if it’s bad let it go away as soon as realized so.

There are special days for everyone separately because some thing special might happen on that day. However today we can do something that makes us feel happy and keep this day as special as far as you can.

Happy New Year!!!

Dominoes Effect

How a simple man is turning into god and very soon as scoundrel.

If a man declaring himself as a god, not just one who visits him, always it’s in large number. In that crowd one or two may coincidently get heal or good things may start happening, most of the time they started to assuming after they attend the meeting or bajan or mass prayer, whatever.

They would say this to their neighbor or relatives. That message will linked to various situations and end up with good stories to media. As like, a normal death of a person linked to the election results and the party who lost in the pool tries to maintain the standard.

Another best example is play of dominos, when one get hits it pushes every other and rapid fall will happen.

As simple as dominoes effect, simple guru is becoming a GOD. Actually they are not turning; we are making them, assuming them as everything.

We may go to karate classes, music classes and mostly to school, ever we keep their photos in home and do prayer every day. No idea why it’s happening when some one teaches yoga or preaches any religious things.

A god is a god and described as he/she or whatever (no problem in that at least) have no weakness, no guilty and no wishes.

When we come to know that they too have a weakness, everyone call them as scoundrel, cheater.

It’s obvious that when we get everything granted we will try to fulfill all our wishes. It is a very common human nature. When everyone thinks about one that whatever he/she says and does are right and precious. They’ll do exactly ‘whatever’. If ‘that’ whatever is not liked by a set of people then the recent god turns into cheater.

In fact, people whoever has no full faith in god and looking for an instant up in life creating such instant gods and ends up in court and media. Anyway a 'that' god will return, without any doubt.

Happy Tears!

What you do if someone ready to give certain sum amount..?

What is your dream… passion… future plan… what you want to be, where you want to stand after 10 years…? Don’t you know Lakshmi Mittal, Bill Gates, Ambani, Mark Zuckerberg. Don’t you want to be like them…? How far are you…?

We are ready to be a slave, rather then building our own kingdom and becoming a king. Well suited comment for people working with MNC or corporate.

How many of us know a 70 year old man who plants a tree daily and maintaining it, fertilizing them. Doesn’t he know that he won’t be there to enjoy any benefit of his work. There are such people around us they never want to write their name on the tree they planted, never want anyone to thank while they are standing under such trees for shadow, as like we take breath without counting. Do we count how many breath we took today..?

Passion or dream is like our breath, that’s ours, based on each individual. I’m not sure earlier listed people achieved their dreams or not, even they might not be sure. They are still fighting and why we need to set them as our target and struggle to achieve their goals when everyone can dream and have their own capability to build own passion.

Some might be passion towards photography, go on and click. Some love to watch movie, when some love to make it. Some bounded by commitments and do job to fulfill, then they go behind their passion. Even after 40 some times. Age is not at all matters here. No meaning in calling them as slaves, slaves don’t even have right to say that they’re slaves. If they say that, their master might say you’re not a slave you’re a shit. We all have freedom and we bounded with our own company policies, which we should’ve read before joining. Many never do and keep on blaming the company. We are free to move out of company we work today and can go to any company we like. No slave has such thing, then that too includes in FREEDOM.

Investing time on a stone or metal or plastic then earning and earning, keep on doing strategy plan to earn more. Getting a name in a list published by some magazine is passion, then move on with it. Counting gives pleasure only until we count.

Passion differs to each individual. That cannot be plant by seeing neighbor land harvest. Here each soil is different.

We are struggle to be like another man rather then being or building ourselves. It looks like making photocopy. Anywhere original only speaks not duplicates.

Don’t ever put others questions in your mind, because that is their problem. Above questions are someone’s they are asking to us and we are forgetting our question and puzzling with their problems by considering it as us. This is like a dominos effect; just a simple push on a domino makes all others to fall rapidly. Do you remember anyone asking you ‘don’t you want to be like a Vivekananda or Che guevara..?’. Hope no one, because that is more difficult. That should make happen with in us, which are purely towards inner. Where outer all are running behind money with pocket full and they want everyone to do so. Never end!

It’s right if you ask your questions to yourself. Keep on asking, once you find an answer ‘ENOUGH’ for all questions. Only one question remain unanswered that is

‘Why I’m here..?’

If you find the answer, don’t ever try to explain to other, again that’s your individual question and its own answer. That never suits to others. Your explanation might give a chance to them to think that you’re mad.

If any two people who find the answer for their last question meet, they will have nothing to speak only happy tears falls from each of their eyes.

It’s absolutely unnecessary that one’s passion should know by others , no need to throw light on it. Do which brings such happy tears, without any limitations and control.

Walk towards it!

You or I mean you and me

Have you ever walked or worked or wandered or met anyone or did anything naked? That’s really hard to do. We can also say it in other way; we are hiding something with us all time. Don’t we go nude at least one time to someone in our life span? We might, we call them as better half.

There should not be any secrets between them. If there is anything or something then there is no meaning of living together. All the nights you spend together, showing once to another are to mean that there are no secrets with me. There is a million dollar question what if one can’t accept another’s secret. Nothing to wonder, time you reveal your secret is matter. Speak frankly without any hesitation, after everything you can go for commitment. One who can accept your faults with smile is having all the right to laugh when you succeed. After all if both of them find some more comfort that lead them to commit. Even after they committed, problem will (MUST) arise.

Do you think suicide is the best solution for any problem? If you say yes, then there is no question if you go for divorce.

When we are saying as better half, what is the meaning in leaving other incomplete? Then there will be an unanswerable question. How can one tolerate blunders? Blunders, that’s really punishable. Even in the (damn) law, death is the punishment for only to the cruelest behaviors. Death is separation of body and soul. When you are the body and your better half is the soul. Is there any meaning in letting your soul out for such blunder? Remember, “Death is a punishment, NOT for ALL BLUNDERS.” Ever think about leaving other alone, which is seriously a suicide. Not all the problems are just a problem.

In a pair, if one has affair with someone new, FIRST the other should think really what that someone is really filling. Only when there is a GAP something (SOMEONE) can fill. The gap might be on either end. As I stated earlier, “DEATH IS A PUNISHMENT not for all blunders.” Make sure there should not be any regret after the punishment. If the true understanding blossomed between them then there is no time for punishment.

In this relationship never expect the other to understand you, you understand them first. I really mean it. If your partner is not comfortable with any of your activity, then the fault is yours, because always it’s your responsibility to keep your partner in comfort. This can be made it on other way; it’s each others responsibility to take care of each other in each moment of life. This is what we agree at the time of marriage.

Above all is the reason though there is a term called sex, people use love instead. That it should happen spontaneously, not by fixing a time and waiting for that. When they feel like there is no words to describe their love they should make love. Times, just a word is enough, a hug or a kiss will do but in some moment we really feel, where we find no word to describe, that time the chemical reaction is termed as love.

If it happens for any other reason then it’s called business. Even the reason is they need kid, and then it’s a production not love. If a man married a girl for dowry then he is a male gigolo. That is called as prostitution not family.

What makes you to think about your marriage?

• I think I’m aged.


• All my friends are married.
  (Do you know what they felt when seeing a single like you?)


• My parents are compelling me so I have to.


• My relatives are asking my mom why I’m still single.

Is these are the reasons behind your marriage.

Then it’s obvious that you and your partner have to sacrifice things after marriage.

The reason behind your marriage should be LOVE.

If you have a question like this, how can I select my pair by going against my mom? I have a question for you. If in any case your mom’s father and your father are in squabble, on which side your mom stands. If you don’t have answer, here it is your father’s side. Simple! It doesn’t mean that she is not loving her father. If you ask the same thing to grand or great grand mother you’ll get only this answer. Life is a gift from your parents. I do agree! And I don’t want to sacrifice it even for them.

If you have a question like this, my dad spends for my studies, my dad bought me dresses, my mom feds me. They can choose a life partner as well. That’s really a tough question to answer. That’s really true, every mom did that. But have you ever wonder how a just born child knew to suck that milk. If you believe in god, then its god, if you are atheist, then it’s nature. Same God or Nature taught every one to feel for their own pair.

If you have a question like this, these many years people did arranged marriages and lived a happy life, what for me. That’s really another tough question. Even I agree, because I started dreaming about my girl ‘cause of my parents. I know how they loved each other. But I’m not lucky enough to have such a life by selecting strange partner.

I’m not asking everyone to do love marriage. But I'm saying that the dreams and views about marriage are different for each other. They should match accordingly else,

“Before marriage, a girl has to
make love to a man to hold him.
After marriage,
she has to hold him
to make love to him.”
--Marilyn Monroe

A girl who is having a dream about her marriage life, her husband should pamper her everyday, expecting a surprise her every month. What if she married to a guy whose thought about marriage is to get a kid for his family. There is nothing wrong in their thoughts but what will happen if they get married.

There is no meaning if a pair looks made for each other or investigating on each of their backgrounds. A pair can have a comment like made for each other is by the way they understanding each other at the time of misunderstanding arise between each other. Understanding will give trust. Trust is other name of love. Love should create a bond… bond called as marriage.

The bond hold both should be love and not for society, parents and even your own children. Have a time to understand each other and know really can live together. Do just let it happen.

Marriage is just another invention of mankind. Up to me “it’s an occasion to inform people we know, that we are going to live for each other, please don’t disturb us”.

Marriages exist first and they extended it to reception according to their wealth. Then we started celebrating reception before marriage. Engagements exist later. To take time to read each other. Though you committed, then you finds that there is no more compatibility between each other, think and proceed further. Always people think that things will be getting fine after marriage. What if not? Don’t do things for one day celebration.

"Children are born by us not for us." Every parent has dreams and should dream to give a birth to their own children, soon after they come into this universe they are started dreaming. Only thing parent should do is to teach how to dream not WHAT TO DREAM? If all did then this universe will starts missing new human every day. Your children learn things from you anyway. Show them how truly should love and believe!

Have a Happy Life!

Virginity vs. Nothing!

This is only ma thoughts. I shared with my friends often. First I planned to give title as virginity vs. purity. But I feel only when two things are really equal and to find which one is the best we go for versus. Here virginity is nothing so there is no purity can compare with it.

In US people celebrate prom night that is the night maximum number of people loose their virginity. That is their last day of school or collage life. Might they marry same fellow or not but that day they loved each other.

Test for this virginity is being done only for women there is no test to find a men to be a virgin (as I searched I can’t find, if you knew let me know). People test that with hymen. This is like a screen in the women organ. If it’s present that women is virgin if not she is not virgin. Fine that’s good. As I said earlier when there is no test can prove a man to be a virgin, we should not do it for women.

Everything in this universe is created with purpose, even this universe. If our earth is 1/5 distance away from the place it is being, no creature can live in that chillness. Same distance if it placed towards sun we can not heal that heat. We all have to live so it was placed here rightly. Purpose is resolving everyday, I believe.

So what is the purpose of hymen?
This is to protect from virus or bacteria come through urinary organs while they cleaning the organs. It prevents the virus/bacteria from entering into the womb.

What if once she had sex?
Anyone should/will have sex only if they are matured enough, so she is matured enough to be safe when cleaning their organs.

All I say is purpose of hymen is not to prove one girl is virgin.

Expect your partner to loves you… love you now. Not anything else. When expect nothing, there’ll be no disappointments.

I remember a question from well known classmate “then why you want to be virgin?”
My reply is “what I do if my girl expects me to be virgin?”

Whatever I can think and write, but I’ve to respect her thoughts anyway. ‘Cause she is my girl!

Love you ma princess.

still I’m not retired

That’s Friday morning. I was still on bed. Something I missed to start that day. Yeah! Muah from my girl. Every day she kisses my forehead before she leaves bed. I wonder what happened today. I opened my eyes and searched her. She is again gone to her twenties. I found her running here and there, hmmm.. I smelled nice aroma. I forgot, our child is coming tomorrow.

I teased her “Oye.. old lady for what you are running without bothering this gentleman”

She scolded “what you want me to do now. I prepared chapattis for you. Have it soon. Don’t disturb me.”

My child is coming after a year so she is excited a bit, no to the core.

I found her hang up on cardboard, I shouted and came towards her “ai… what are you doing, why you are now hanging up there”

She replied in pity voice “I need that vessel to prepare sweets”

Smiled and said “my loose… you are now 60… get down… get down… let me take it”

In sarcastic voice she replied “oh you youngster, are you still 22 for your information you are also 59… hmmm”

We both smiled and I tried to reach up and took that vessel were she balanced the stool. I saw fear in her eyes. More than when she is up.

She is ready with a list and started to read.

“this for son-in-law, she always says that he loves my preparation and this for bingo, she loves rava laddu, ven pongal for my child”

I saw a childish smile, same as when I proposed her. I felt my girl still…

She vanished and I found her in kitchen.

Almost evening, my girl called us through phone, they are supposed to start. Though many times even she gone there and came back alone too. She is still advised them how to sit, stand and get down.

I thought she is still my kid. But when she is advising her own kid, I laughed to myself.

I commented her, “better you try for airhostess job my princess”

“at this age you want me to go”

“so what you are still gorgeous then teens my love”

“hmmm.. poda loose”

Don’t what it’s but every time she said poda I grow younger. This is retired life after done with every thing, fulfilling all my responsibility. Living in the hands of a girl we love at 60 is heavenly life.

That whole night she scheduled everything, where and all can take her grand daughter to.
She revised it more than twenty times. She gasped suppose of talking.

At last Saturday has come. We were ready to receive them. I heard the news of that acceded in flash news. We rushed to airport. I can describe it as war field. Full of fire, sound of cry, human eyes are with tears and hands full of blood.

She held my hands tightly. I enquired a policeman; he responds calmly, “please you people wait out of sight sirs.”

I removed her hold and walked towards the ambulance. That was she, my kid and her man. Beside I kept my eye on my princess. She is searching me in that crowd. I controlled my tears and I hold her hands and walked towards outside. She stared at me. I knew what she likes to ask.

A reporter shown mike towards my face,
“where are you from sir, do you like to add comment about this accident. Did you lost any… anything”

I supposed to say “everything” but disparately I turned other side I noticed a little girl standing near a fire engine with tearful eyes. I ran towards her and keen in front of her and hugged tightly for a minute then took her up. She was nerves.

She asked me “thatha, why mom thrown me out of flight. Where is daddy?”

I hugged her tightly and holed my girl’s hand. She tightens the hold.

That moment I felt ‘still I’m not retired. We have to grow up with her.’ I kissed our bingo and finds way to hospital. All the way I heard,

“If the airport authorities had helicopters at their disposal then some more lives could have been saved. Even the fire engines took time to reach the crash site, and that also compounded the problem,”

A reporter said “A 2006 safety audit by the International Civil Aviation Organization listed India as worst on “technical personnel qualification and training”.

Who is enjoying life??

Hi all,

If you say that you have no smoking or drinking habit..
Comments on you are “Hey, are you youngster?”
“Why you are not enjoying life?
“Don’t waste your life”
“Don’t restrict yourself”

mmm.. TO WHOMSOEVER BOOZE IT MAY CONCERN,

In this universe the water is in many forms, and they gives you pleasure,

Whenever I feel lonely this blue water gives me pleasure. A day I can spend on seeing that blue water. Usually I share all my things, sorrow, happiness, wishes and everything with that.

Time I went out to see my dear that clouds showered on me, that water gives me pleasure.

My friends made me to laugh and bring tears, that water gives me pleasure.

When I say good bye to someone they hold my hands and say “I gonna miss you” with tears, that water makes me proud.

NO SUCH ROTTEN WATER CAN GIVE SUCH PLEASURE, REAL PLEASURE!!!
Pleasure given by rotten water,

Don't even say that YOU people are enjoying the life... when in real YOU people doesn't even now what's happening around you at that time... How can say you are enjoying the life... This is not a real pleasure, YOU people are hiding yourself from trouble for few hours or a day. You people get courage only when you booze. We all are always… who is facing troubles are really living… only who is living can enjoy.